Hi! My name is Mel.

There’s something I’d like you to know about me: I absolutely love what I do. I love my clients, and I love the process of working with you, and seeing the transformations that happen in relationships. I’m committed to making space in the world for people to express their deepest desires, and to live and love in healthy ways. And I bring all my skills and experiences (everything from studying in yoga ashrams to management, to peer counselling and my own relationship learnings) to support you

I was born in London, England, and spent my formative years living in Kuwait. I am a descendant of Celtic, Hellenic, Sinti, Iberian, Jewish, and Nordic ancestors, and in my matrilineal line I am the first in six generations that has not been a refugee. I was raised with strong influences of latinx, mediterranean, and arab cultures, woven with the philosophies and practices of Kashmir Shaivism. Since 2004, British Columbia, Canada, has been my home.

I’ve had first hand experience of a wide spectrum of relationships.

Formerly monogamous, I came to explore non-monogamy as I sought out a more authentic way of living; I was tired of living by a default set of expectations for how my life was expected to unfold.

After a miscarriage in 2009 and struggling with depression, I began diving into the question of what I really needed, wanted, and desired in my life. I knew I wanted to have more than one partner, and I knew I didn’t want to have any dishonesty in my relationships. In 2012 I began writing my blog, Polysingleish; it was a way to explore and process the unconventional approach to polyamory I was finding myself drawn to.

I realised I enjoyed diving into the inner workings of relationships of all styles, and I chose to pursue my certification in Counselling for Intimacy in Relationships from the Vancouver College of Counselor Training, and am trained in Holistic Peer Counselling and ZEGG Forum facilitation. My current studies are focused on Somatics and Trauma-Informed approaches to healing: I am completing my training as a Somatic Movement Teacher with the Institute of Applied Somatics, and am a student with the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education.

Prior to being a relationship coach, I enjoyed a career teaching acting and theatre skills, and for over a decade I was a professional bodyworker. I hold a BA(Hons) in Acting, a LAMDA Gold Medal for Acting with Honors, and a Diploma in Bodywork and Massage

I bring diversity to my practice.

I  bring all my experience to the work I do and aim to meet my client wherever they are at, whatever their own background, without judgement.

I’m queer, and identify as a polyamorous relationship anarchist. I’m also an advocate for Consent Culture.

I have presented talks and workshops on the subject of relationships at Vancouver Island University, Douglas College, Bass Coast Festival BC, Vancouver Poly 101, Nanaimo Poly 101, Comox Valley Poly 101, The Greater Vancouver Interactive Arts Society, Love Sex Intelligence Culture Labs, Modern Sex Talks, WestCoast Bound, ConvergeCon, Relate Con and more. I’ve been featured as an expert on non-monogamous relationships in Newsweek, Elle Magazine, Huffington Post, Vancouver Courier, CBC Radio Canada, Refinery29, Fatherly, and many others.

I live on the unceded territories of the K’omoks Nation in BC, Canada, and enjoy nurturing joyful, fulfilling relationships within my local community and chosen family.

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Mel is an incredible listener and her attention to detail was crucial. I walked away with much more than I had anticipated: I came away with a lot of tools to work with, and also a comfortable understanding of who I am and how I present myself to others. Mel is nothing short of awesome at what she does, and I will continue to use her as a resource and recommend her.

Thank you so much Mel, you rock!!!
 
Anon
Colorado, USA
Mel maintains a calm demeanor with low pressure conversation. She's approachable and accessible. She cares. It shows. Her passion for intimacy and relationship actualization shines through. Sex positive, poly aware, and kink aware, Mel is a very versatile specialist and adviser - the perfect counselling choice no matter how simple or complicated your concern or situation is.
 
Victor
BC, Canada
"My session with Mel went beyond value for money. She created an immediate sense of being seen and heard in non-judgmental space. Mel reflected accurate insights to me, and held space for me to explore things that were beneath the surface. I was moved by the integrity she worked from in our sharing. I felt great compassion and wisdom with her, and my thoughts and emotions  shifted to we worked. Mel is sharing a gift with her energy. "
 
Anon
Edmonton, AB, Canada
"Thank you so much for a wonderful workshop! Thank you for the space you held and your guidance. So enriching to spend time with good people on a path of evolution."
 
James
Victoria, BC, Canada
Mel has been an incredibly valuable asset to me in helping to evolve my relationship skills and helping me to empathize with my partners. Her workshops and her coaching have drastically improved the communication level and quality of my relationships.
 
Gabriel
BC, Canada
"Your work has reminded me that perhaps there isn’t anything wrong with me at all. I am amazed at the deep levels of shame we carry as human beings because we don’t fit into the construct that is given to us as a model for our life. It feels exciting because I can now explore what I want for my life rather than be gifted something that just doesn’t feel right for me."

Craig P

Australia
Mel is an exceptional communicator and listener. Having known her personally and attended several of her workshops I can attest that she has the rare combination of perspective and presentation that many more experienced facilitators lack. I highly recommend her offerings.
 
Anon
BC, Canada
In my experiences with Mel's workshops, writings, and counsel, I have received a unique and innovative perspective in to a world of relationship wonder and intrigue. Mel's work offers a look in to the multifaceted mysteries of relation, intimacy, the self and various types of connections we make.
 
Anon
BC, Canada
Mel has been a tremendous source of inspiration for my relationships and my community at large. She presents with a combination of professionalism, knowledge and open-minded curiosity that makes her safe and approachable. My profound journey through love and relationships has definitely been helped through the time I have spent with Mel.
 
Erin
Rotterdam, Netherlands
Mel has some seriously great communications skills and methodologies. I've seen a lot of facilitators in my time and she ranks up here with the best. I won't hesitate to take another of her workshops.
 
Marissa
BC, Canada
I just wanted to take a moment and thank you for your coaching yesterday. It really helped me to focus in on what mattered and what I want and to know where I stand in my relationship and with these shiny new polyboots!
The conversation with my partner went amazingly well. Like really really well. We found much common ground and even discovered our common kinks. I am feeling so loved and supported and ready for this next adventure. Thank you for being a part of that!
Anon
Vancouver, Canada
Mel's skill and comfort with questioning and reformulating beliefs regarding relationships is contagious. If you want to open up to new possibilities, she can be a resource for you.
Nick
BC, Canada
Just wanted to send my deep gratitude and appreciation for your workshop. I let go of some self-indictments around believing something "different" about love, and was able to move towards being more in integrity with myself (and those with whom I relate). I was also able to become really clear about my core "essentials" in relationships (whether monogamous or non-monogamous; romantic/sexual, emotional, social/community or other), and am certain these breakthroughs will only serve my own wellbeing and the wellbeing of those I have relationships with now and in the future more than I can even comprehend.
Anon
Victoria, BC, Canada
Thank you for your kind help and wisdom at such a fragile time - I appreciate it so much and it helped a lot
 
Anon
Australia

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Mel is an incredible listener and her attention to detail was crucial. I walked away with much more than I had anticipated: I came away with a lot of tools to work with, and also a comfortable understanding of who I am and how I present myself to others. Mel is nothing short of awesome at what she does, and I will continue to use her as a resource and recommend her.

Thank you so much Mel, you rock!!!
 
Anon
Colorado, USA
Mel maintains a calm demeanor with low pressure conversation. She's approachable and accessible. She cares. It shows. Her passion for intimacy and relationship actualization shines through. Sex positive, poly aware, and kink aware, Mel is a very versatile specialist and adviser - the perfect counselling choice no matter how simple or complicated your concern or situation is.
 
Victor
BC, Canada
"My session with Mel went beyond value for money. She created an immediate sense of being seen and heard in non-judgmental space. Mel reflected accurate insights to me, and held space for me to explore things that were beneath the surface. I was moved by the integrity she worked from in our sharing. I felt great compassion and wisdom with her, and my thoughts and emotions  shifted to we worked. Mel is sharing a gift with her energy. "
 
Anon
Edmonton, AB, Canada
"Thank you so much for a wonderful workshop! Thank you for the space you held and your guidance. So enriching to spend time with good people on a path of evolution."
 
James
Victoria, BC, Canada
Mel has been an incredibly valuable asset to me in helping to evolve my relationship skills and helping me to empathize with my partners. Her workshops and her coaching have drastically improved the communication level and quality of my relationships.
 
Gabriel
BC, Canada
"Your work has reminded me that perhaps there isn’t anything wrong with me at all. I am amazed at the deep levels of shame we carry as human beings because we don’t fit into the construct that is given to us as a model for our life. It feels exciting because I can now explore what I want for my life rather than be gifted something that just doesn’t feel right for me."

Craig P

Australia
Mel is an exceptional communicator and listener. Having known her personally and attended several of her workshops I can attest that she has the rare combination of perspective and presentation that many more experienced facilitators lack. I highly recommend her offerings.
 
Anon
BC, Canada
In my experiences with Mel's workshops, writings, and counsel, I have received a unique and innovative perspective in to a world of relationship wonder and intrigue. Mel's work offers a look in to the multifaceted mysteries of relation, intimacy, the self and various types of connections we make.
 
Anon
BC, Canada
Mel has been a tremendous source of inspiration for my relationships and my community at large. She presents with a combination of professionalism, knowledge and open-minded curiosity that makes her safe and approachable. My profound journey through love and relationships has definitely been helped through the time I have spent with Mel.
 
Erin
Rotterdam, Netherlands
Mel has some seriously great communications skills and methodologies. I've seen a lot of facilitators in my time and she ranks up here with the best. I won't hesitate to take another of her workshops.
 
Marissa
BC, Canada
I just wanted to take a moment and thank you for your coaching yesterday. It really helped me to focus in on what mattered and what I want and to know where I stand in my relationship and with these shiny new polyboots!
The conversation with my partner went amazingly well. Like really really well. We found much common ground and even discovered our common kinks. I am feeling so loved and supported and ready for this next adventure. Thank you for being a part of that!
Anon
Vancouver, Canada
Mel's skill and comfort with questioning and reformulating beliefs regarding relationships is contagious. If you want to open up to new possibilities, she can be a resource for you.
Nick
BC, Canada
Just wanted to send my deep gratitude and appreciation for your workshop. I let go of some self-indictments around believing something "different" about love, and was able to move towards being more in integrity with myself (and those with whom I relate). I was also able to become really clear about my core "essentials" in relationships (whether monogamous or non-monogamous; romantic/sexual, emotional, social/community or other), and am certain these breakthroughs will only serve my own wellbeing and the wellbeing of those I have relationships with now and in the future more than I can even comprehend.
Anon
Victoria, BC, Canada
Thank you for your kind help and wisdom at such a fragile time - I appreciate it so much and it helped a lot
 
Anon
Australia