by Melina | Jan 18, 2024 | Conflict Intimacy, Intimacy, Love, Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy, Trauma Informed
This article is an abbreviated version of a chapter from my upcoming book, shared with gratitude to all the individuals who offered feedback to the draft and asked to be able to share it with their friends and loved ones. We can work out logistics, share google...
by Melina | Oct 28, 2018 | Conflict, Conflict Intimacy, Intimacy, Self Care
The Drama Triangle: a model for understanding interpersonal conflict. Again and again I return to this model to understand my own accountability in contributing to conflict, and as a tool for supporting others in navigating conflict. The Drama Triangle is a relational...
by Melina | Aug 31, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy
“Some day my prince will come Some day we’ll meet again And away to his castle we’ll go To be happy forever I know” ~Some Day My Prince Will Come, by Frank Churchill and Lorey Morey, from the Walt Disney Movie “Snow White”. The alure of the One True Love....
by Melina | May 7, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy
Over the past few weeks, I’ve been preparing for a new workshop that I’m offering with two dear friends. Our workshop is all about relating courageously and compassionately, and so I’ve been thinking about what it means to be authentic in relationships, and how...
by Melina | Mar 31, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Love
In a world where we loose ourselves to the transient, illusionary constructs of connection, where social media and now, virtual reality, offer us manufactures forms of connection, taking the place of in-person real, nourishing presence, there is such a need for the...
by Melina | Jan 23, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy
Again and again, I find that most obstacles in relationships boil down to two things: fear of loss, and difficulty articulating needs and desires. And I consider the question: do these two phenomena have a common root cause? I think so. Perfectionism. Whether it’s...