by Melina | Aug 29, 2018 | Intimacy, Love
“Enough with the martyrdom, Mel, you need to step out of that.” My friend Chris and I were finishing up a session of peer coaching (because even coaches need coaching from time to time) and he added this as a little aside at the end. We’d been talking about a...
by Melina | Apr 11, 2018 | Intimacy, Self Care
I’ve long believed that the most important relationship we have in our lives is the relationship we have with ourselves. When our relationship with ourselves is poor, that’s when we start to reach out to others in needy, and sometimes codependent ways. We might find...
by Melina | May 7, 2017 | Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy, Relationship Anarchy
“Boundaries are an essential part of life. They delineate and maintain needed borders and separations, making differentiation possible at every level. Boundaries both contain and preserve the integrity of what they are safeguarding, be that physical, psychological,...
by Melina | Feb 13, 2017 | Intimacy, Love, Relationship Anarchy
Do you ever find yourself in relationships where you want something more, but don’t know how to get there? You are not alone. We all crave more authentic and honest connection. One of the reasons social media became so quickly a staple of daily lives is because...
by Melina | Aug 31, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy
Course Starts FEB 27th 2018 Registration Now Open “Some day my prince will come Some day we’ll meet again And away to his castle we’ll go To be happy forever I know” ~Some Day My Prince Will Come, by Frank Churchill and Lorey Morey, from the Walt Disney...
by Melina | May 7, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy
Over the past few weeks, I’ve been preparing for a new workshop that I’m offering with two dear friends. Our workshop is all about relating courageously and compassionately, and so I’ve been thinking about what it means to be authentic in relationships, and how...
by Melina | Mar 31, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Love
In a world where we lose ourselves to the transient, illusionary constructs of connection, where social media and now, virtual reality, offer us manufactures forms of connection, taking the place of in-person real, nourishing presence, there is such a need for the...
by Melina | Jan 23, 2016 | Conflict Intimacy, Monogamy, Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy
Again and again, I find that most obstacles in relationships boil down to two things: fear of loss, and difficulty articulating needs and desires. And I consider the question: do these two phenomena have a common root cause? I think so. Perfectionism. Whether it’s...
by Melina | Nov 13, 2015 | Love, Monogamy, Non Monogamy
“To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love. To know how to love someone, we have to understand them. To understand, we need to listen.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh What is Love? What is that feeling of connection, compulsion, that draws us to...
