artwork showing multicolored hands coming together in a circle, with light at the centre. Each pair of hands makes a heart-prayer
With all the incredible learning we've been doing collectively about consent and boundaries, it's easy to start thinking about boundaries only as external limits, but we need to remember that boundaries are also about recognising and honoring our internal capacity.
Not every bud blossoms at the same time. Not everyone grows at the same rate in their non-monogamy journey.
One of the common misconceptions that I come across is that it you aren't on (or actively seeking) a Relationship Escalator, then you aren't taking relationships 'seriously' and/or are afraid of commitment.
When my journey in polyamory started, I said that I wanted to be in a primary relationship with myself -- and have an orgy with the universe.
What are we doing if we're working on healing the way we build relationships if we're doing it alone?
It is possible to grow so familiar with what is uncomfortable that healthy relationships become unfamiliar, and stepping into them feels terrifying.