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Courageous Conversations

Do you experience unresolved conflicts in your relationships?

Have you ever postponed difficult conversations because it seemed easier to avoid them than to dive in?

Would you like to step out of a space of fear and into one where you are empowered and resilient in all your relationships?

This course offers you tools for being able to build connection in the face of adversity and interpersonal strain, and dives into a deeper understanding of how we can— as individuals— contribute to building a stronger culture of compassion and consent in our communities.

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Workshops and Talks I Offer:

Honest Non Monogamy : The Essentials

For many people, ethical and honest non monogamy is about freedom: freedom to love who you want, when you want, in whatever way feels authentic between adults and is mutually consensual. It has a rosy reputation for being about not putting limitations on whom or how you love, being able to acknowledge your needs and desires and dreams, knowing that to expect one person alone to fulfill all of them is way too much pressure.

But what’s the reality? How do the myths differ from the practical applications? How does it actually work in real life? Is non monogamy some enlightened approach to living, or simply another set of options for relating to other humans? Is there a Golden Path to polyamorous perfection, or is it a multilinear dance where we each get to decide what works for us as individuals?

Whether honest non-monogamy is new to you, or you have years of experience, this full day workshop promises to offer fresh and insightful perspectives, and empower you with new tools to assist you in enjoying more fulfilling relationships!

Pathways to Radical Intimacy

What do you want, and why is it so scary to ask for it?

What clues do our desires give us about our needs?

How can knowing our core needs help us to develop deeper intimacy with our loved ones?

How does trauma impact our ability to share intimacy, and how can we support experiences of building and strengthening trust in our relationships?

What can we do to nurture a lasting feeling of intimacy and connection- not just between partners, but between friends, community, and tribe- in a way that is consensual and offers space for individual expression?

In this dynamic full-day workshop, we’ll be exploring some practical tools for developing intimacy, empathy, connection, and diving into core needs and desires- with activities that include playing interactive games that will combine theatrics, physical touch, and communication.*

This workshop is an invitation for anyone who wants to deepen their relationship with themselves to step into a new experience of intimacy. This workshop is for everyone who has ever felt stuck, alone, or afraid of connection.

“True Intimacy asks for more than eye-gazing; it calls upon a kindness with one another’s shadows and gentleness with all our imperfections.”

*This is not a sexual workshop, and participation in activities is optional.

Radical Relationship Intensive
An immersive experience, coming in 2017.


"Thank you so much for a wonderful workshop! Thank you for the space you held and your guidance.
So enriching to spend time with good people on a path of evolution."
Victoria, BC, Canada
"Your work has reminded me that perhaps there isn’t anything wrong with me at all. I am amazed at the deep levels of shame we carry as human beings because we don’t fit into the construct that is given to us as a model for our life. It feels exciting because I can now explore what I want for my life rather than be gifted something that just doesn’t feel right for me."
Craig P
I just wanted to take a moment and thank you for your coaching yesterday. It really helped me to focus in on what mattered and what I want and to know where I stand in my relationship and with these shiny new polyboots!
The conversation with my partner went amazingly well. Like really really well. We found much common ground and even discovered our common kinks. I am feeling so loved and supported and ready for this next adventure. Thank you for being a part of that!
Vancouver, Canada

Just wanted to send my deep gratitude and appreciation for your workshop. I let go of some self-indictments around believing something "different" about love, and was able to move towards being more in integrity with myself (and those with whom I relate). I was also able to become really clear about my core "essentials" in relationships (whether monogamous or non-monogamous; romantic/sexual, emotional, social/community or other), and am certain these breakthroughs will only serve my own wellbeing and the wellbeing of those I have relationships with now and in the future more than I can even comprehend.

Aerye Swarek
Victoria, Canada
Mel's skill and comfort with questioning and reformulating beliefs regarding relationships is contagious. If you want to open up to new possibilities, she can be a resource for you.

BC, Canada

Mel has been a tremendous source of inspiration for my relationships and my community at large. She presents with a combination of professionalism, knowledge and open-minded curiosity that makes her safe and approachable. My profound journey through love and relationships has definitely been helped through the time I have spent with Mel.

BC, Canada

Mel has been an incredibly valuable asset to me in helping to evolve my relationship skills and helping me to empathize with my partners. Her workshops and her coaching have drastically improved the communication level and quality of my relationships.
BC, Canada
Mel maintains a calm demeanor with low pressure conversation. She's approachable and accessible. She cares. It shows. Her passion for intimacy and relationship actualization shines through. Sex positive, poly aware, and kink aware, Mel is a very versatile specialist and adviser - the perfect counselling choice no matter how simple or complicated your concern or situation is.
BC, Canada

Mel has some seriously great communications skills and methodologies. I've seen a lot of facilitators in my time and she ranks up here with the best. I won't hesitate to take another of her workshops.

BC, Canada

Mel is an incredible listener and her attention to detail was crucial. I walked away with much more than I had anticipated: I came away with a lot of tools to work with, and also a comfortable understanding of who I am and how I present myself to others. Mel is nothing short of awesome at what she does, and I will continue to use her as a resource and recommend her.

Thank you so much Mel, you rock!!!

Colorado, USA
There were so many insightful components... the biggest takeaway was reinforcing my wants in a relationship.
Mel you have such a beautiful heart centred way of delivering this workshop and I'm convinced that many people can benefit from the tools, resources and lessons you offer.
Vancouver, BC
Thank you for the space in which you held during the workshop, the skills that were taught, the emotions opened and above all the clarity it allowed in how I present myself to the world and areas in which I was holding back.
Thank you! So much thank you and gratitude for this.
This workshop was the beginning of a month of so much opening and healing and realizing potential, I am beyond grateful.
Victoria, BC
Thank you for your kind help and wisdom at such a fragile time - I appreciate it so much and it helped a lot

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