by Melina | Jan 18, 2024 | Conflict Intimacy, Intimacy, Love, Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy, Trauma Informed
This article is an abbreviated version of a chapter from my upcoming book, shared with gratitude to all the individuals who offered feedback to the draft and asked to be able to share it with their friends and loved ones. We can work out logistics, share google...
by Melina | Dec 29, 2023 | Community, Consent Culture, Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy
If you’re like me, there was probably a time in your life when you aspired to non-monogamy and thought you were the only one. Maybe you’d seen some articles or heard about others doing it and thought, “Wow, that’s wild!” and then immediately dismissed the desire...
by Melina | Jan 27, 2023 | Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy
I need to start this article by acknowledging that I am not an academic, nor am I a scholar. I’m a nerd: a nerd who loves to explore ideas, someone who has been fascinated with history and human psychology for as long as I can remember, and who is relentless in...
by Melina | Apr 18, 2022 | Non Monogamy, Polyamory
This article originally appeared on the Polysingleish blog, June 11th, 2016. It has been modified and updated for this site. You don’t have to go far on the internet to find articles exploring the ethics of Ethical Non Monogamy. It’s all over social media,...
by Melina | Apr 8, 2022 | Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy
Have you noticed that folks tend to talk about self relationships from two very different perspectives? One group of people will identify it as a process that supports an individual to know and embody their boundaries, to get in touch with their needs and desires,...
by Melina | Aug 18, 2021 | Intimacy, Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy, Self Care
Just like any healthy ecology, a relationship landscape will naturally shift and transform through the passage of time: trees grow and blossom in spring, fruit through summer, some shed their leaves in autumn. Smaller plants come, and go. Perennial relationships are...
by Melina | Mar 18, 2021 | Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy
This article originally appeared on Polysingleish, April 28th, 2015. It has been edited and updated from it’s original version. The most common script that we follow in relationships is that of the Relationship Escalator. Originating in Patriarchal Monogamy,...
by Melina | Sep 18, 2020 | Non Monogamy, Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy
This article originally appeared on Polysingleish, June 28th, 2015. It has been edited and updated from it’s original version. I have a confession: it took me a while to wrap my head around what ‘couple’s privilege’ was all about....
by Melina | Sep 17, 2020 | Non Monogamy, Polyamory
This article originally appeared on Polysingleish, Feb 9th, 2015. It has been edited and updated from it’s original version. The Perfect Polyamorous Person— or PPP for short— develops in all of us who start exploring polyamory. It’s this future...
by Melina | May 3, 2020 | Relationship Anarchy, Self Care
This article was written during the COVID-19 Lockdown. Before you read on, I need to offer acknowledgement that I write under unique circumstances during these lock-down times: I have the privilege to live in an area where there have been few cases, and transmission...
